In grandparents with other relations in the

April 22, 2019 Health

In Indian society we often see rare strength of relationship, spirituality and intensity. Wecan say in this context if we want to know the reality of the country we have to this intensity of relationships. My concerned study is on the relationship of grandparents with other relations in the family particularly with grandchildren. Players become old after forty of their age but a writer’s desire remain young even after sixty. Then who are old? In this concern we see some characters who are above sixty but remain the head of the family. As in the story of Amarkant ‘Sahayak Colectory’ father is old but hold the power of the family. What is the means of oldness? Is this the life run on crooks? This oldness dwells with ‘helplessness’. But helplessness is the compulsion of oldness not the natural.
A man can be helpless with his body but he remains young with his heart. In this particular context we ought to take concentration on our grand relationships. In country like India grandparents have always got prominent place in family because country as India and Russia favor joint families. European countries have odd experiences in this concern they have separated families. Although some families follow western culture in nature of their families. Yet we can see the existence of grand relationships prominent.
The Indian author Sudha Arora who has wrote stories, novels and biographies. Her story ‘Kanse Ka Glass’ shows the interaction of a girl named Chilky and her grandma. The story starts by the glass that has broken and ends with the glass of copper that has lost. The broken glass is made of plastic raw material, on this breakage Chilky weeps on this trivial lose grandma stops her by showing love towards the little girl the next movement shows the relationship of the father and mother. Chilky lives with her grandma and father. Her mother left her with them but she could not forget the mother. Once she replies when the glass break “Papa ne nahi …………….ye mumma ne lakar diya tha” (p 67). The grandmother and other family members do not like the mother of Chilky, ‘Neha’. The family provides all the things to the little girl Chilky but she could not forget her mother. The grandmother narrates a story of her own grandmother. It was the time when she was just a child. Actually the current story of Chilky is about a copper glass that relates to the old grandmother that is above ninety. In the beginning of the story we see intimate love towards the granddaughter.
Here a sense of humor in an interaction of old grandmother and her granddaughter that shows the actual age of the old grandmother. She always used to make wrong statements about her age that it’s not the matter of to tell someone else. Whenever someone say her that her life was near ninety she always denied: “Abhi teen mahine baki hain, mai nabbe ki hui nahi or sabhi nabbe ki btate hain, nabbe ke ooper aadmi jeena band kar deta hai kya? (p 70). She exists herself young. Even she depicted in this story health conscious. Chilky’s grandmother and the old grandmother’s relationship is intimate in this story but we see Chlky’s mother has no feelings towards her only daughter. Chilky’s grandmother discharge her duty honestly in the absence of Neha. She commits all efforts to make this child happy and there is not a single sentence in this story that disclose love Nikhil and his daughter Chilky. It means the Garand relationship is prominent. Once Chilky expressed in story “Eka Ek Chilky ka chehra bujh gaya ‘mumma ab kabhi milne nahi aaegi, daadi?”(p 71)
At first Neha seldom made calls but now she doesn’t make a single blank one. The parents relationships in this story marginalized or omitted. The grandmother says to Neha not to break relationship but ignores that. She says “riston ko is tarah mat todo neha, career banana ke bahut se moke aaenge ……………… kam se kam Chilky ke baare me to socho. Maa ke baigair vo kaise rah paaegi?” She replied “kyon baap ke baigair nahi rehti kya, jab Nikhil ship par chale jate hain 6-6 mahine nahi lot te” (p 72). After some time grandmother left home to live with Chilky because the new house was near Chilky’s school. It shows a responsible relationship of the grandmother. But Chilky could not forget her mother. A same atmosphere was created as it was before “Chilky thi ki apna ghar bhulti thi, na kamra or na usne jisne kamra (room) bade mann se banaya tha”.
A narrative in this story that is about the title, the Glass of Copper that is important for the old grandmother. The old grandma takes all things by this glass. She is fond of it. One day it was missed. She did not swallow a single drop. Old grandma was a lady with grace. Love towards children can be seen in this story in these lines. “laikin apne marne ki poori tyaari kr rakhi thi. Kahti meri ye choodi meri Bitto ko de dena. Bitto meri bhua ka naam tha. Ye kaan ke bunde meri poti ko, ye sone ki chain doosri poti ko…………….or meri aakhri nisaani ye glass …………ye bhi Bitto ko”. These grand relationships seems continue one of elderly Women says in this concern “toorda firda loya, bai gay ate goya, lamma pyaa te moyaa” it means man who is active remains strong, who sits becomes dung, who lays becomes dead. This is the last part of our story. When we see the highest peak of the relations and connections of these grand people. When the copper glass lost and grandmother leave eating food without the glass. We see the determination of grandmother. She says she would take food on the only condition of glass finding. In fact the class had a great touch with old grandmother. Glass was not only a glass that was made of raw materials of copper but it was ‘Lahor’ for her. “Mere liye to vo mera lahor hai, mera veda hai, mera meka( Mayka) hai”(p 76).
When the glass finds she breaks the fast of non-eating. But in the very next morning when all waked up the old grandmother found dead with smile on her face and the glass with in her hands. Where are these relationships today? We see a bond of relationship between the characters of love and hate. The old grandmother died contented. Here Chilky says “unko glass nahi dete to nahi marti na” (p 77). Her grandmother replies “marti to vo tab bhi par tab unke chehre par muskaan nahi hoti”. As the relationships lost the glass also lost. In fact it was antique glass that was really only a heritage, got after the death of the old grandmother, she could see her own mother and father’s home, and her Lahore in this copper glass. Now where are the relationships and where the glass is? The story ends with a statement of Chilky’s grandmother that “Chilky ne thik kaha tha kanse ka glass toot ta nahi tha par …………par vo glass glass kahin kho gaya tha, isme koi shak nahi”


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