WHAT IS NARCISSISM?
Narcissism is a personality disorder or mental condition in which people have exaggerated sense of self importance or obsession, excessive need for attention and admiration. Narcissist lack empathy for others and have problems in their relationships. Although they show extreme confidence but internally they are susceptible to the even slightest criticism. This abnormal behavior begins by early adulthood and occurs in multiple social situations.
A narcissistic personality disorder can be problematic in many cases for example relationships, work, school or financial matters. People with this mental condition may get upset and disappointed when they’re not given the special favors or admiration they believe they deserve. Other people may not feel comfortable in their company due to their uncertain attitude. As they demand more of everything, so mostly they find their relationships void and unfulfilling.
CAUSES OF NARCISSISM
The causes of NPD aren’t well understood. However, inherited genetic defects are thought to be responsible for many cases of NPD. Contributing environmental factors may include:
• childhood abuse or neglect
• excessive parental pampering
• unrealistic expectations from parents
• sexual promiscuity
• cultural influences
SIGNS AND SYMPTOMS OF NARCISSISTS
• Need excessive sense of admiration and are self obsessed.
• Brag about their achievement and talents.
• They dream about success, power, intelligence, beauty or the perfect life partner.
• Believe and expect to be recognized as superior regardless of their achievements.
• Snubs and belittle the people who there think are inferior in status, and only have precise conversation with them.
• They expect favors and take advantage of others in pursuit of their success.
• Be envious of others and believe others envy them
• They lack empathy and have inability/unwillingness to understand others feeling or wants.
• They need the best of everything and throw tantrums when they don’t get what they want
• Have an internal feeling of insecurity, shame, vulnerability and humiliation.
Other than this, people with narcissistic personality disorder have trouble while handling anything they perceive as criticism. They experience major problems dealing with stress and adjusting to change. They usually feel depressed and moody because they cannot attain the level of perfection they want.
Long-term, consistent outpatient care is the approach included in the treatment of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). This usually involves a combination of psychotherapy and medication management. People with narcissistic personality disorder may not want to think that anything could be wrong, so they may be unlikely to seek treatment. If they do seek treatment, it’s more likely to be for symptoms of depression, drug or alcohol use, or another mental health problem. But perceived insults to self-esteem may make it difficult to accept and follow through with treatment. If someone recognize aspects of his/her personality that are common to narcissistic personality disorder or you’re feeling overwhelmed by sadness then they should contact trusted doctor or mental health provider. Medications may be included in your treatment if you have other mental health conditions.
Narcissistic personality disorder treatment is centered on talk therapy, also called psychotherapy. Psychotherapy can help you:
• Learn to relate better with others so your relationships are more intimate, enjoyable and rewarding.
• Understand the causes of your emotions and what drives you to compete, to distrust others, and perhaps to despise yourself and others.
Areas of change are directed at helping you accept responsibility and learning to:
• Accept and maintain real personal relationships and collaboration with co-workers.
• Recognize and accept your actual competence and potential so you can tolerate criticisms or failures.
• Increase your ability to understand and regulate your feelings.
• Understand and tolerate the impact of issues related to your self-esteem.
• Release your desire for unattainable goals and ideal conditions and gain an acceptance of what’s attainable and what you can accomplish.
Therapy can be short term to help you manage during times of stress or crisis, or can be provided on an ongoing basis to help you achieve and maintain your goals. Often, including family members or significant others in therapy can be helpful.
Narcissist may feel defensive about treatment or think it’s unnecessary. The nature of narcissistic personality disorder can also leave them feeling that therapy is not worth their time and attention, and they may be tempted to quit. But it’s important to:
• Keep an open mind. Focus on the rewards of treatment.
• Stick to your treatment plan. Attend scheduled therapy sessions and take any medications as directed. Remember, it can be hard work and you may have occasional setbacks.
• Get treatment for alcohol or drug misuse or other mental health problems. Your addictions, depression, anxiety and stress can feed off each other, leading to a cycle of emotional pain and unhealthy behavior.
• Stay focused on your goal. Stay motivated by keeping your goals in mind and reminding yourself that you can work to repair damaged relationships and become more content with your life.
In a nutshell, narcissism falls on a spectrum from mild egotism and feelings of over-entitlement to delusional grandiosity, demands for admiration, and an utter lack of concern for other people.
Nature vs. Nurture
The nature vs. nurture debate within psychology is concerned with the extent to which particular aspects of behavior are a product of either inherited (i.e., genetic) or acquired (i.e., learned) characteristics.
Nature is what we think of as pre-wiring and is influenced by genetic inheritance and other biological factors. Nurture is generally taken as the influence of external factors after conception, e.g., the product of exposure, experience and learning on an individual.
The nature-nurture debate is concerned with the relative contribution that both influences make to human behavior.
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