How many people do you know that are now divorced? I believe that before any couple even thinks about getting into a serious relationship or perhaps even marriage, they should first realize the consequences they may suffer in their future lives. What marriage means to me is the idea of a union between individuals who commit to one another with the expectation of a stable and lasting intimate relationship. It begins with a ceremony known as a wedding, which formally unites the marriage partners. This union may seem somewhat easy to some, but hard to others.
Hard for those that want to have a lifelong relationship; comparatively easy for those who just want to be with someone for the time being. Societies in which individuals choose their own partners, young people typically date prior to marriage. Dating is the process of spending time with probable partners to become acquainted. Dates may take place in groups or between just two individuals. When dating becomes more serious it may be referred to as engagement. Engagement implies a deeper level of commitment than dating does. During engagement the individuals specifically consider marriage, rather than merely enjoying one another's company for the time being.
As stated in the poem, "Balances", by Nikki Giovanni, we used to talk all night and do things alone together and I've begun to balance the pleasure of loneliness against the pain of loving you This example from the poem shows a couple that did so much together and loved every moment of it. Yet, they lost it all after realizing what it really meant to be together forever. Losing that affection prevented them from enjoying the relationship they had hoped for. Provided from the reading text, "The Brides Bed", by Kahlil Gibran, ". . . he is my beloved, and I killed him because I loved him . . ." A sacrifice is primarily made as the bride kills her bridegroom, or beloved.
Losing a true love can be so hard and painful that you don't want to be nothing but alone. As the bride clearly shows a sign of true love, stabbing her beloved with the dagger and admitting that she was the one who did it. Obviously days from the past clearly show the similarities and differences of modern day as shown above. For example, divorcing may be the only way out of a commitment you once had in comparison to just sacrificing ones life for a reason you cannot get out of. What divorce, or dissolution means to me, which is increasingly becoming known, is the process that legally terminates a marriage no longer considered viable by one or both of the spouses and that permits both to remarry.
I would like to show an example of a song dealing with my relationship studies. The excerpt shown below is written by the singing group called "Nickleback". The title of the song is called, "How You Remind Me": . . . it's not like you didn't know that I said I love you and I swear I still do And it must have been so bad Cause living with me must have damn near killed you . . . Even in songs, singers / people show the pain of love they once had. The above excerpt deals with a man that loved a woman, yet she showed no sign of loving him back, and left him. Again this shows an example of a couple that started out very committed and wanted a lasting relationship which lead to misfortune, and the experience of pain. Even periodicals have statistics like the one I viewed called, "After the Affair", by Gregory K. Popcak. . . .
It can seem difficult, even impossible, to bind oneself for life to another human being. . . As I read in this periodical, it explained to me and asked questions like the sentence I wrote above. To me the short stories, poems, songs, and periodicals that I have read / listened to myself about dating and marriage have all really made sense to me. Marriage today is so complicated, and it can ruin someone's life just by signing a piece of paper. To me I would consider thinking about what marriage really means to you, and how committed you are to your partner before taking one of the biggest steps in life.
